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Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Be Nice



I try not to wax too philosophically here. Eloquence is not my forte.

But this quote keeps coming up. I saw it on Pinterest, I saw (and shared it) on Facebook. My husband even came home telling me a story based on this thought. It rings so true.

It rings true right now as we head into the holiday season. We see things on blogs and Pinterest and Facebook and in magazines and commercials and ads, even in our friend's homes, that seem bigger than they are. Something that makes us think they have it all together, they have the perfect holiday decor/meal/family/home/relationship/whatever.

Guess what? They don't!

This isn't an encouragement to look for the dirty little secret your friend/aunt/neighbor is hiding. It's about extending yourself the same pleasantries and compliments you give to your hostess. Cutting yourself the same slack you give your bff.

It's not about tooting your own horn either. Chances are, you're doing a great job. Your house looks great, your kids are happy, you cooked an amazing meal. And if you didn't have time, if you didn't get a chance, if you're fighting with your kids to get them to wear that color-coordinated family outfit, if you were grouchy at your husband because he went and sat down while you're still stressing about last-minute details, it's ok!

No, it's not good, nor fun, nor how you want to spend a holiday, but it's life. It's real. We've all been there. It will get better, this too shall pass, chances are you won't remember the stress next year when you reflect on Thanksgiving 2013.

I'm just pretty sure you'll enjoy this holiday season a lot more if you're nice to yourself. Compliment yourself. Say something nice about you in the mirror when you prepare to meet your guests. Do something nice for you during a day off. Step back and enjoy your kids in the middle of the chaos.

Be  nice. It's hard to be happy when someone is mean to you all the time. 

Don't be that someone!




Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Toy Story

In our family with three kids ages 2-6 means different interests and abilities. It could potentially mean tons and tons of toys too! It certainly seems that way, but we've found a few ways to organize and store toys that works for us.


1. Purge purge purge. I know, I'm the meanest mom ever, but if a toy is broken, if parts are lost, if it is junky or something the boys don't really play with, out it goes.

2. Picky picky picky. Again with the mean mom thing, but we are seriously picky with what we let our boys play with. I think every family has to decide what is "OK" for their kids to play with, but we've set our limits and we stick to 'em. For us that includes no movie or Disney or cartoon characters (my kids don't know who Spiderman is and I love it!), nothing animated (think a talking train or dinosaur or monkey), nothing violent/war-related (guns, tanks, swords, bombs, soldiers, GI Joe), and very little battery-operated (Wii, Leap Pad, robots, remote-control, etc.). Again, we have our reasons why or why not and every family sets their own limits.


4. Simplify simplify simplify. We packed up and moved this year. Things were in storage. Our boys grew a whole year and did just fine with less while things were in storage. So when mommy unpacked, lots of forgotten, little-used or much-abused toys were immediately donated instead of finding their way back into my boys' hearts. I chose to keep the small "regular" sized legos and not the larger ones; I kept plastic dinosaurs but not a zoo-full of fluffy stuffed animals my boys were quickly growing out of.


5. Display display display. One of my favorite ways to store toys is to display them. You saw the shelves in my oldest son's bedroom above. They include his legos, a set of emergency-response vehicles and his dinosaur herd which just migrated to this display shelf (built by Grandpa) that hangs above his bed. Below is the display/storage shelf in the room my middle and youngest son share. I keep tractors and the barn there, a mommy and baby monkey they're particularly fond of, and a red fireman hat that matches their room. Priorities!


6. Store store store. At the end of our hall is a closet. I chose to use the top half to store toys. That limits how many toys are out and helps toys stay "special" for when you need them to really occupy the interest of a couple little kids! 

 
7. Limit limit limit. This goes hand-in-hand with #6. These toys are something that the boys need to ask for because they can't reach them. Usually it's when I'm making breakfast or when I need the boys to be occupied. I give them one kind of toy--matchbox cars or their wooden train set--and that's what they all play with. Usually because the toy is "new", they're content to play together nicely for at least a few minutes. These are also the toys my older two boys can play with at rest time. They each pick a set and take it to the room they rest in and play with only that set of toys for an hour. There are a few other special toys not kept here--a set of marbles, a learning/computer game, and Jonathan's legos that he prefers to play with alone--which are allowed at rest time too.

8. Contain contain contain! These bins are awesome, and so are the shelves in each boy's room. Everything has a place and the boys know where things go. They're awesome at putting things away--which is something they've had to do (with help) since they could hold a toy. There are a couple more places in the living room for toys like blocks or their books.


9. OUT OUT OUT! It's easy to say in the summer, but the boys play outside most of the day. They have bikes and balls and trucks to play with, sprinklers on super-hot days and a plethora of natural resources--sticks, berries, walnuts, ants, rocks, puddles... They love it outside and I love getting chores done a little faster. We love outside play-dates too!



10. Busy busy busy. Our kids are part of our family, obviously. We tell them we're a team and when they help, either by being obedient or by playing nicely or by doing chores, they're helping their family team. We involve them, whether it's making breakfast, doing yard work, starting the laundry, making beds, clearing the table or going out somewhere with the family.  

So there you go, a few thoughts and ideas on toys, toy storage and getting away from toys! What about you, are toys taking over your life? How do you organize them? Any tips for keeping boys occupied in the winter?

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Confessions, Hair and a Vote

I've been sitting here for the longest time with pictures loaded and thought swirling in my head, struggling with where to begin. I have my heart in my throat fearing that you all will reject me because of what I'm going to say. I struggle with perfectionist tenancies and fear that I project myself as I want to be rather than I truly am on this dear blog of mine.  

Family picture May 2011

I'm not. Not even close. I'm the first one to admit that, and if you came to my house or met me in person, I know you would see a new side of me. One that isn't perfect and hopefully because of that is a lot more fun and realistic and approachable. Right? 

Family picture July 2011
I didn't want to have to talk about this yet. I don't feel like I'm ready, but I need a haircut! Yes, this all stems from needing a haircut!!!

J2 and me, Christmas 2009
The cute, smiling blonde in my profile picture really is me. Or was. Before getting married, having three kids and becoming a stay-at-home mom. As you can see from the family pictures above, I've stopped getting highlights in my hair so it's quite brunette now. It's also super long--as in middle of my back.

But here's the confession ... staying home + three babies + thyroid problems + a million other excuses = extra weigh. Ugh. While I'm only showing you a head shot, you can see my chubby cheeks and extra chin.


Please don't de-friend me or stop following my blog! Oh, what a negative self-image I have right now! Do I have to publish this post? Whose idea was this anyway?

So. There's the confession.

Here's the thing: I need a hair cut! My husband mentioned the other day that my hair had gotten so long that I should donate it to Locks of Love. I haven't looked into the details, but it got me thinking of some of my favorite hair cuts in the past.

The first is a reverse bob. I love the angled layers and this has been a flattering cut on me before.




Of course my examples are with super-skinny people--why is that?!



I love the chin-length bob on Kiera but it's really short and has no bangs.



Blogger Kate (above) has longer layers and bangs which means she might be able to wear her hair back or in a pony tail which I really like to be able to do. Kate also has really thick hair--which I don't.



Nicole has fine hair like me and keeps it simple with a shoulder-length cut and side-swept bangs. Very simple and cute, but also on a super-tiny girl!



Jennifer has inspired haircuts for years now, hasn't she? I like her simple shoulder length hair with highlights.



Carrie has long hair like me, but with pretty layers and side-swept bangs. I could easily get a few layers cut and still wear a ponytail.




Miley has her hair super straight here, which is how my hair is too. Very versatile and would look great with bangs or without.

So there you have it! Six ideas, three basic cuts... What should I do?


Kiera, Rachel, Miley, Kate, Nicole or Carrie? If only my stylist could trim off a few pounds too!

Who has inspired your hair styles lately? Do you have a favorite face-slimming cut?

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Inspiration Files: Yellowstone National Park




We're planning a cross-country trip this summer with a weekend at Yellowstone National Park! I've wanted to go there for years and years, so we're jumping at the opportunity even though we can't stay long. 

I thought I'd whet our collective appetites for an adventure in the wilderness! 


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Have you ever been to Yellowstone? What was your experience like? What would you recommend? Keep in mind that we don't have much time there and will be on a budget. We also have three small children! Where would you stay? What are the top three things we HAVE to see?  

Be inspired!

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Barnwood Sign

Our barn is full of curious and odd things, not the least of which is some old lumber.


This chunk of wood has lived in our house for a couple years, previously displaying our last name stenciled in white. While I liked that idea, the stencils were crooked and on a lark I flipped the sign over and drew a G on it.


G could stand for lots of things, but it happens to be the initial of our last name, of course. 


I free-handed the letter with basic trim paint and a small paint brush. When it was dry, I gave the whole thing a good scrub under running water with a brush. The wood is really old and soft and it all gave the G an old and weathered look.


Oh, hey, did you notice my twine-tied candles? That's new too. I've been slowly taking the red out of my living room and replacing it with light blue. The candles were burgundy.


And chewed on--I guess they were just too tempting to a couple little boys when they were displayed lower. I glued on a layer of paper before wrapping the twine around the candles so no red would show. If I choose to burn the candles in the future, I'll add a votive inside that will keep the open flame away from the edge of the candle and the twine.


While you're in my living room I'd like to show you how I've set up my shelves with the entertainment unit. I love it like this and don't know why I didn't try this sooner! It's directly across from the big picture window which our couch is centered on. I realize that I'm not following the trend in blogland to paint my armoire, but I happen to like it this way! I'm not into huge white pieces of furniture, and I'm fickle with other colors. 


Speaking of color, I'm tired of the dark brown wall. I would like more light on that half of the room, and I've been wanting something lighter. You can see my curtain panel below, which is the color I've been adding here and there. The curtains are staying, as is the big leather chair. The carpet will eventually be replaced with hardwood flooring. I'm wondering if a silver blue would work well in here, or greige or the tan that's behind the blue curtain. 
 

What would you suggest? Silvery blue? Gray? Greige? Tan? Board and batten with one of those shades on top?   





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Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Tuesday Tip: Must-Read for Parents

I've been wanting to focus more on parenting here on my blog, but I have a hard time articulating what I've learned. Or maybe it's that this parenting gig is constantly changing and evolving. 

Lately I've been inspired by Lisa at The Pennington Point. She's doing a series called "Intentionally Parenting Your Toddler". Pure gold, I tell you! 

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3


I hope you have the time to prayerfully read her first three posts in the series. I can't wait for more!

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